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Separation Is a Virus - Part 3/3

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Right individuation leads to sovereignty & unity. Only then is it safe to meet others without competing.

☥ Welcome to my Mystery School – The Temples of Isis ☥

(You are invited to read the first and second parts of this article beforehand in order to better benefit from the content of this one, grasp its true meaning and its real and profound repercussions.)

What are some concrete and efficient techniques to practice self-love in order to boost and support the return to a state of equilibrium and harmony and what does a life post-reconciliation look and feel like?


The first thing you need to understand is simple but absolutely crucial: to heal, to love yourself, to support the return to a state of equilibrium and harmony means YOU PUT YOURSELF FIRST. It means you apply, really apply the Golden Rule which teaches you: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself’. You cannot love anyone if you do not love yourself first and this self-love is the greatest project a soul can undertake. Concretely, it is all about learning to maintain your joy. Joy is a compass. It is the surest indicator that you are in your vibration, in your ‘vortex’, as close as you can get to your soul. It is no coincidence that the English language offers the expression ‘killjoy’: a killjoy is a vampire, an extremely toxic being whose acts of sabotage are not to be taken lightly. Therefore learning to pay attention is a good idea: to protect your joy like you would protect a child (your inner child, in fact) is an undeniable sign of emotional and spiritual maturity.


Protecting your joy requires a lot of energy, willpower and determination because at this stage, what is going on is an unplugging from the matrix you grew up and lived in to entirely, fully and totally break free from the victim-perpetrator-savior dynamics! Those dynamics are a killjoy and will do everything they can to keep you in their grip: envy, jealousy, blame (of self and others), a desire for revenge, little betrayals, little lies, little compromises, ‘I can do this’, ‘I can say this’, ‘it’s no big deal’…Energetically, everything is recorded by the universe...The solution lies in only making choices that enhance your joy: childlike joy, inner joy, divine joy, naive joy, joy of the master, joy of the heart (joy is a very high vibration and is what the universe needs the most).


The Atlantean manipulations disrupted the workings of the pleasure center. The real pleasure center is the heart. The disruption consists in be-lie-ving that the pleasure center is located in the brain. That is what causes the be-lie-f that addictions exist, addiction to a substance, a person etc (see 2nd article of this series) whereas nothing could be farther from the truth: a person who knows how to harness their sexual energies is never addicted, they perfectly and thoroughly master themself because they consciously and willfully harness their sexual energies to the heart like a master, a sovereign being is supposed to do it. The heart being the center of pleasure and love, what is felt is a direct access to the love vibration. Not only no addiction can occur but the only ‘byproduct’ of this perfect mastery is…joy, pure elation, an orgasmic state.


Detaching from others, their successes as much as their troubles, spares you negative emotions and the need to rescue. Women in particular will find that difficult as they have been conditioned to look after others and give their energy, their time and their devotion without barely taking themselves into account. Self-love will demand that they learn to be in the equation.

Self-love will demand that you learn to allow: allow yourself to be joyful, allow yourself to be happy, allow yourself to put yourself first, allow yourself to indulge, allow yourself to follow your flow, allow yourself to follow your passion, allow yourself to follow your intuition, allow yourself to follow your heart, allow yourself to not rationalize, allow yourself to not suffer, allow yourself to let down the people in your life, allow yourself to listen to your body (look at it, touch it, caress it, own it, include it), allow yourself to say no, allow yourself to set healthy boundaries, allow yourself to manage your own schedule, allow yourself to not have the strength to force yourself to do something unappealing, allow yourself to meet your needs, allow yourself to sing when your parents want you to prepare for an MBA, allow yourself to travel around the world when your friends think you should keep that golden job, allow yourself to take a relaxing bath when the children are hungry, allow yourself to spend the weekend with your family even though grandma is not feeling well, allow yourself to create your own business even if logic and well-intentioned family members rush to discourage you and logically lay out the too many risks involved...Requirements, demands, expectations, constraints, pressures, urgencies, excuses are endless and, truth be said, almost unsurmountable…


Self-love will demand that you love and embrace the shame, guilt, vulnerability, anger, resentment, fear that taking care of yourself so much generates. Self-love will demand that you break free from your need for external approval and grant it to yourself. The amount of compassion the inner child needs to reconnect to its playfulness and spontaneity is monumental.

Dissociating from others and releasing your sense of responsibility will help you navigate this new land where you need to build new pillars to lean on and find a new foothold to walk on.

You will notice a binary motion: you’ll discover your ability to follow your impulses and your innocence and then you’ll hit a wall of remorse and pangs of conscience. Self-love demands that you move through those motions with patience and benevolence until the new attitude anchors itself and takes up residence in you.


Throughout those months, you’ll be burning the victim-perpetrator-savior inner patterns from your consciousness, system, biology, cellular memory, energetic field and karma, personal as well as the collective’s. It is an alchemical process, a profound, reformative process. All that is needed is perseverance and the appreciation of every single simple, daily pleasure along the way that reinstates your joy and a feeling of having found your light-heartedness and trust again.


*John 3:7

Your emergence will take place when you realize that you have reclaimed your sovereignty, your power and your authority over yourself and your life, and when equilibrium and harmony are a permanent state that no ‘killjoy’ can disrupt any longer. This state brings with it a love for others which opens both the heart and the eyes and gives birth to compassion and clarity and it is when truly loving your neighbor becomes possible and genuine: you welcome them without holding on to them, you let them come, let them go, let them come back.


Loving yourself means being aware of your divine identity and self-containment (diamond); loving others means being aware of their divine identity and self-containment, which involves understanding at a profound level that they cannot be owned, controlled and that they do not need to be saved: their situation reflects the choices of their divine will. It is the embodiment of the Sanskrit word Namaste.

Paradoxically, the integration of the masculine and feminine, the healing of the psychic virus, leads to individuation which leads to unity. Each being has their own place, their own space, their own energetic territory; boundary issues dissolve and you obtain peace and wholeness. It is the embodiment of the Hebrew word Shalom.


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We are in an age of desinformation, seduction, lies, and immaturity where intelligence, purity, and truth are the first victims. The content of this blog aims at restoring the bases of an emotionally and spiritually sound and enlightened society. It may feel a bit extreme and maybe offensive to some people. Truth, in essence, is immutable and wages war against falsehood. Therefore, it is quite naturally belligerent and triggers the vain, superficial, and immature ego only used to getting its ways and immediate gratification. It is its role and goal: get out of the state of hypnosis and mental control that a vast majority of people in this world are in, and raise awareness in this age of darkness and complacency. I wish to make it clear that I do not write these articles to be nice, or not nice for that matter, but to serve the Great Cause which is universal Love and the return of the Goddess, our divine Mother. Facing the truth takes great courage (the root of which is cor in Latin, meaning ‘heart’, therefore having courage takes heart). The wisdom offered on this blog reflects the mission I’m on since without truth, we lose our freedom altogether. The stifling lack of truth these days explains for the equally stifling presence of modern slavery which, let’s make no mistake about it, is the current condition of the human race.

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